I hadn’t thought of that. I just thought that I would be this extraordinary woman who everyone knew as FEARLESS. But I realized: being FEARLESS requires action. So, then I’m like: “Oh ok, well let’s do something then Allison. Let’s be fearless!...” and then I got scared. Petrified. Here I am, I done-had a conference (yes I typed that on purpose and I’m rolling my neck too, ahem) and I had the nerve to name it FEARLESS. I didn’t think about the fact that I would have to practice what I preached. Has that happened to you? Have you ever announced that you were going to do something and then realized that now you had to do it? Sheesh! That’s when every fear floods your mind like a viral chain letter on Facebook (which I hate by the way).
So now I’m overwhelmed. I used to suffer with the fears of being embarrassed and the fear of failing. Lord knows I don't want to look crazy. People know me. I'm far from famous, but I'm making a name for myself. These thoughts paralyzed me and made me not want to do anything.
At the conference I described my fears as food (silly, I know. But you had to be there. It was powerful. Take my word for it.). Here I am, staring at my fears aka ‘squash and salmon’ trying to figure out what to do next.
Tell someone your plan. (Hold up! Hear me out.) Telling someone(s) your next move, is a wise idea! It makes you face your fears. I know it’s scary. (Shoot my fears; “squash and salmon” are telling me right now to keep everything to myself).
Why We Are Afraid to Share Our Plans with Others:
Telling people your dreams subjects you to their negativity. And just like salmon, negativity stinks! When you share your plans, people tear you down, or steal your ideas, or they offer so much of their opinion that you lose your own voice. Letting people know your next move also gives them front row seats to your failures.
Once you let people in, they are officially in your business… but that's a good thing! Because now you have to be accountable. And guess what? You still may fail. Miserably (sorry, I’ve got to be honest. Shrugs.).
- Failing makes us human.
- Failing is an excellent teacher
- Failing keeps us humble.
- Failing also ensures that the Lord stays relevant in our life. The Lord alone is the only one that can reach us at our lowest point. So really, failing isn’t that bad. It’s actually good, like squash.
Friends, I invite you to join this journey of FEARLESS living with me. One step at a time. I challenge you to share with someone(s) what you plan to do next. I’ll start: I plan to grow the MooreLaughing Women’s Empowerment brand entitled; ‘Queen of the Block’. Instead of having an annual “event”, we will be a continuous and intentional ministry. I plan to be honest with you about my steps in my comedy career and life overall, with the hope of growing with you and becoming all that the Lord has created us to be. There will be teachings, prayer, fasts and encouragement in weekly blogs starting with this one. (Deep sigh. There. I said (typed) it. That was hard.) I’m afraid. What if this blog isn't good. What if this ministry doesn’t grow. What if it’s not impactful?..
At the conference Dr. Faith empowered us to replace our “what if’s” with “so what”.
So that’s what I’m going to do! So what if I end up looking crazy. It won’t be the first or last time!
And just like that: I know what to do after I broke up with fear... I told you. And I did it!
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