(a) I could be offended at how self-centered that she thought I was.
(b) I could look at myself and try to find out why she would think that about me.
I chose (c). Both! But I stayed offended for quite some time before I looked at myself in the mirror.
Chile, I was HOT! DO YOU HEAR ME?! And I had to get it out. I was so irritated that she would think that I wanted and or needed her to puff me up when I was absolutely, nowhere near trying to get her to flatter me. And I was upset that someone close to me would think that about me. I could feel the steam roll through my entire body. Offended I was indeed. But after I let the steam evaporate, I asked the Lord to give me insight. And that was way worse. He showed me how many of my actions and conversations were self-centered and when I leave a trail of self-centeredness, it is easy for people to quickly assume that that is the direction that I am going in. So although my intentions were not that on this particular day, there was something to be said of the fact that a person on my team would think that.
Many times, we are upset when someone misinterprets our intentions and/or they incorrectly assume something about us. However, we fail to look at why they would read what they read about us. In moving forward, we must become so diligent to listen to what others think about us. And whether they are completely wrong or spot on or somewhere in the middle, if we don’t like someone else’s perception of us, we must consider how they drew their conclusions. Now let me insert here: As with anything, we should spit out the bones and feast on the meat. I know there will be times where people are deceived because of their own lenses and it does not matter what we do (most common example is the Lord Jesus Christ) and in those moments there is nothing that we can do. Some people just think what they want to think. But then in many other times, if we are honest with ourselves, there are outputs that we can adjust to change some else’s perception of our actions and intentions. Sometimes that is clearly, walking in deliverance from some things. Also we may find that we need to realign our conversations to certain people. And then there are moments where we may need to be more clear in our communication to eliminate opportunity of misunderstanding.
Nevertheless, listen to what people close to you, say and think about you and be FEARLESS to address it from the heart as applicable. It’s protection, because whether you meant it or not, the close people see first what other people will soon see. For me, I don’t want people to think I’m self-centered and or creating circles of people that praise me. That said, I had to make some adjustments to avoid this from happening again (as much as it can be avoided). Be encouraged to receive the feedback around you and be even more encouraged to adjust.
You still have your crown Queen. It’s just a little crooked. Let your sister sit your crown up straight for you and now go and get your Block!
See you next week!