So here I am, just having this deflating conversation and I am now realizing that I needed to reset my expectations and game plan. The truth is, the opportunity wasn’t completely gone, it was just different than what I had envisioned and was planning for. I sat in my car and I’m going to be honest, I had a few moments where the victim mentality wanted me to drop in defeat. You see, I can be resilient, but it is not without a long period of extreme drama. And I mean, extreme! Like you can expect me to cry, I’m going to tell 10 of my closest friends. I am going to include every colorful detail and ensure that I use the best voice inflections and the most suspenseful cadence as I talk. After that, I would check out mentally for 2-3 weeks and blame it on the world because ‘woe is always me…’. Thennnn after all of that, I would come back swinging, but my dramatics are time wasters and extraordinarily exhausting for all parties included.
I was sitting there ready to unleash the drama Queen and for the first time in a long time, I looked at disappointment and said: “No”. Like legit. “No!” I didn’t feel like it. Not that night. I did not feel like telling myself that everyone owed me and no one had the right to change their mind and blah blah. Because the truth is, no one owes me anything. And everyone DOES HAVE the option to reset and revamp, even if includes something that I’m involved in. So I didn’t succumb to defeat and failure. I started talking out loud to myself: “Ok, Allison. This didn’t play out the way that you thought it would. But that’s ok! What’s next? What else can you do?” So I sat there and thought… and out of nowhere, I had the notion to reach out to someone that I had worked with in the past, and let’s just say, this ended good. Real good. And in 24 hours, one decision changed my world. All motivated by disappointment.
Disappointment breeds options. What will you choose? You can stand at a closed door choosing to retreat in defeat. Orrrr you can walk to the next door and knock. Often times, we retreat. Because frankly it hurts to be told “No”. But walking to the next door is so vital to our success. In my case, I grabbed my pride, courage and faith and I walked to the next door. I knocked and this next door was opened for me. And guess what, it actually gave me more than what I had! Now I’m able to go back to the other door and leverage. Had the first door been opened to me the way I wanted it to, I wouldn’t have been able to offer as much as I can now. I am so glad that I didn’t throw my ‘defeat temper-tantrum’.
Friend, keep knocking. Go door to door. Don’t let a closed door derail you from walking towards your dreams. The right door will open for you. Don’t give up, now is not the time. You are way too close!
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